Got Soul Ties?

Find yourself giving your all in relationships? Are you a woman who loves too much? Have you been the best you can be yet find yourself in the same situation again? Have you found yourself in the spin cycle repeating the same patterns over and over and over again: dumped, manipulated, used, abandoned...alone. My dear, you may have a soul tie.

What is a soul tie? Quentin McCall describes it as, "two souls tied together by the spirit mainly caused by sex and sexual abuse". His blog post, "3 Things You Need to Know About Soul Ties" provides more information. 

This blog won't be spent going on and on about soul ties and how you can break them. Soul ties was one of my struggles and so I'll point you to all of the resources that helped me...because now I am free, redeemed and whole.

Paula White - Breaking Ungodly Soul Ties

Quentin McCall - How To Break Ungodly Soul Ties

http://quentinmccall.com/overcomingsexualsoulties/

Joyce Meyer - The Healing Word

Scroll down to the "Free Downloads" section of this page on Joyce Meyer's website. Look up for yourself and write down the scriptures she provides in "Spiritual Healing Scriptures" and "Emotional/Mental Healing Scriptures". Meditate on them...it really works. 

Spoken Word - Soul Ties

Other Tips

1. Stay in the Word. Learn about the promises God has for your life. Find your identity in Christ.
2. Whenever you think of him or her...pray for him/her. Anytime I missed my ex I prayed for him. Any time I was mad at him, I prayed for him. Any time I thought of the broken promises, empty words and lost time...I prayed...that he would become a true godly man, free of all that separated him from God - because he too deserves to be whole. I prayed that what he did to me did not happen to him and that he would be blessed and forgiven...given prosperity and a bright future despite how I felt he did me wrong.
3. Rebuke toxic thoughts. I wrote a biblical response for every thought that came to me in my journal. e.g. "I miss him. I want him back. I miss being held. I was so happy." --> "Do not arouse or awaken love before it so desires." (Songs 2:7)
4. Do your part. You have to delete the pictures and the text messages. You can't expect God to do a work in you in the spiritual when you aren't doing anything in the natural. I don't listen to songs that remind me of my ex, I deleted our pictures together on Instagram. I deleted pictures we had together...and their duplicates. I even had to delete him from Skype because seeing him popup would make my heart race and just wasn't doing me any good.
5. Remember that it's God's job to work on his/her heart. Talking to him, nagging him, having sex with him, sending him money, etc...will NOT and never will change him. Let go and let God do all of that.
6. Forget. Forget what he did. Forget what he said. And if you can't do that...hold on to Romans 8: 28 for dear life: "And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are called according to his purpose." Do you love God? Are you walking in God's purpose? Are you living for Him? If so, this promise is for you.

Remember, 

• What God has for YOU cannot be taken away from YOU! - Heather Lindsey
• You can't miss what God has for you. "Your" man cannot get away. - Michelle McKinney Hammond

Walk in love. Don't wait for this guy to come back. Don't sit around wondering why this happened to you...again! (Sidenote: When I asked God that question in my own life He said, "You did not love me with your whole heart.") Use your period of singleness to work on yourself and have God work on you. The Holy Spirit is longing to come in and FIX you, but you have to allow Him. Allow Him. I really hope this sparks a change in you...I'm only 3 months in from realizing I had soul ties, finding the root causes and breaking them! God is able!

All my love,

Zemi; KingdomWomen